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Saturday, October 10, 2026
HOW DO BLESSINGS AND CURSES WORK?
When You Understand God's Word, You Stop Fighting Battles That Don't Belong to You
Great question! I'm glad you asked!
Someone asked me, “How do blessings and curses work?”
Let me explain it the way I understand it through my faith, my life experiences, and the Word of God.
The Bible says in Psalm 105:15:
“Touch not mine anointed, and do my prophets no harm.”
Now, before you get upset with me, let's have a conversation!
WHY DON'T I GET MAD WHEN PEOPLE CUSS ME OUT?
Somebody asked me, “Why don't you get mad when people cuss you out?”
I said, “Baby, do you know how the Bible works?”
They looked at me and asked, “Why are you bringing the Bible into this?”
I said, “It's real simple. Let me explain it to you!”
I have learned that every battle does not require my participation. Every insult does not deserve a response, and every person who comes against me does not deserve a place in my spirit.
Just because somebody curses you doesn't mean you have to curse them back!
I have blessed people all my life. I don't make it my business to curse people because I understand that I am not the ultimate judge. God has that authority, not me.
The Bible teaches us to bless those who curse us and pray for those who mistreat us.
Luke 6:28 says:
“Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you.”
Now, that is a different way of looking at things, isn't it?
THE PRINCIPLE OF BLESSINGS AND CURSES
Here is how I understand the spiritual principle.
When I bless someone, I am choosing to put goodness, kindness, and positive intentions into the world. I am not always responsible for whether that person deserves or appreciates my kindness. My responsibility is to make sure my heart is in the right place.
And when somebody curses me, I have a choice.
I can become angry, retaliate, and allow their behavior to change who I am. Or I can remain calm, refuse to participate in the negativity, and allow God to handle what is beyond my control.
I believe that when you put goodness into the world, you position yourself to receive the peace that comes with doing what is right.
Likewise, when you deliberately seek to harm someone who has done you no wrong, you must consider the consequences of your own actions.
The Bible reminds us in Galatians 6:7:
“For whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.”
That is why I am careful about what I say, how I treat people, and what I put into the atmosphere.
I don't want to spend my life planting seeds of bitterness and then wonder why my own life is filled with conflict.
WHY I DON'T CURSE MY ENEMIES
Let me tell you something else.
My enemies promote me!
Sometimes, the very people who spend their time criticizing you, talking about you, and trying to discredit you end up bringing more attention to your name.
Think about it!
They spend their time watching me, discussing me, and telling other people about me. Meanwhile, I am over here living my life, pursuing my goals, building my businesses, and doing what God has placed in my heart to do.
All that energy they spend trying to bring me down can end up bringing more people to see what I am doing.
Isn't that something?
I don't have to fight everybody who disagrees with me. I don't have to answer every accusation. I don't have to prove my worth to people who have already decided what they want to believe about me.
Sometimes, the best response is to keep moving forward.
Not every enemy deserves a confrontation. Sometimes, your progress is the response.
WHY I NO LONGER ALIGN MYSELF WITH DYSFUNCTIONAL PEOPLE
You can probably understand why I am careful about the people I allow into my life.
I value my peace.
I am no longer interested in unnecessary arguments, constant confusion, jealousy, manipulation, or relationships that require me to compromise my character just to keep the peace.
I have learned that protecting your peace does not mean you think you are better than anybody else. It means you understand that your time, energy, and spiritual well-being matter.
I can love people without giving them unlimited access to me.
I can forgive people without inviting them back into my life.
I can pray for someone without agreeing with their behavior.
And I can walk away without wishing them harm.
That is not weakness. That is discipline.
JUDGE NOT, LEST YE BE JUDGED
One of my favorite biblical principles comes from Matthew 7:1–2.
Jesus teaches us not to judge others, reminding us that the measure we use to judge others will be used in return.
I take that seriously.
I am not perfect, and I have never claimed to be. I have made mistakes, learned lessons, and experienced situations that taught me to look at life differently.
Because I know that I have imperfections of my own, I try to be careful about condemning somebody else.
I can recognize wrongdoing without pretending to be God.
I can hold people accountable without seeking revenge.
And I can stand up for myself without becoming the very thing I am criticizing.
There is a difference between discernment and condemnation.
Discernment helps you recognize what is healthy for your life. Condemnation assumes you have the authority to determine another person's ultimate worth or spiritual standing.
I will leave the final judgment to God.
WHEN GOD TAKES ME HOME
At this stage of my life, I am less concerned about how people judge me and more concerned about how I live.
When God calls me home, I want to know that I did my best to walk in faith, show kindness, learn from my mistakes, and treat people with dignity.
I want to know that I did not spend my entire life consumed by anger, revenge, and resentment.
I want my heart to be at peace.
I want to be able to say that even when people mistreated me, I did not allow their actions to dictate my character.
That does not mean I will tolerate abuse, accept disrespect, or refuse to defend myself when necessary. Forgiveness does not require you to remain in harmful situations, and faith does not require you to abandon your boundaries.
It means I can protect myself without allowing hatred to become my identity.
MY FINAL THOUGHT
So, when somebody asks me why I don't get mad when people cuss me out, my answer is simple.
Baby, I have too much peace to lose over somebody else's anger!
I am not responsible for every word that comes out of another person's mouth. I am responsible for my own words, my own actions, and the condition of my own heart.
If you bless me, I appreciate it.
If you misunderstand me, I hope you find clarity.
If you criticize me, I will consider whether there is anything I need to learn.
And if you come into my life with nothing but negativity, I can choose to keep my distance.
I don't need to curse you. I don't need to destroy you. I don't need to spend my days plotting your downfall.
I can leave the judgment to God and get back to living my life.
Because I believe that what I sow matters, how I treat people matters, and the peace I carry within me matters.
I refuse to let somebody else's bitterness become my burden.
I will continue to bless people, pray for wisdom, protect my peace, and trust God with the things I cannot control.
And when my time comes to leave this earth, I want my life to reflect the faith I profess.
That is my testimony.
That is my understanding.
And that is why I don't have to get mad every time somebody gets ignorant with me.
GOD HAS THE FINAL SAY.
“Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.” Romans 12:21
Chevy
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Friday, October 9, 2026
Ain’t Talking About Nuthin’ Does that help you???
Please accept my sincere apologies if I don’t fit your mold, fit into your box, think like you think, or support your petty drama.
I am NOT about that life.
I do not promote dysfunction. My entire career has been built around telling stories, promoting others, creating opportunities, and helping people bring their visions to life.
Some people mistake my silence for weakness, my kindness for stupidity, and my willingness to promote others for a lack of ambition of my own.
They have misunderstood the assignment.
My enemies are now my footstool.
I do not share my stories to entertain fools. My story is much deeper than gossip, speculation, or somebody’s desperate need for attention. My story is about resilience, rebuilding, entrepreneurship, survival, and learning how to build something from nothing.
July 2024: Starting Over in Las Vegas
In July 2024, I arrived in Las Vegas with no money, a temporary room, and one bag of clothing.
I was starting over after finding myself on the street, surrounded by circumstances and narratives about me that I believed had been created to serve other people’s personal agendas.
I had every reason to become bitter. I had every reason to give up. I had every reason to spend my days explaining myself to people who had already decided what they wanted to believe.
But I chose another route.
I chose survival. I chose rebuilding. I chose to put one foot in front of the other and figure out how to turn what little I had into something meaningful.
I have survived losing nearly everything. I have experienced the pain of family separation and what I believe were serious injustices involving my children. I have endured relationships that left scars, circumstances that challenged my faith, and situations in which I felt targeted, misunderstood, or betrayed.
I have encountered people whose spiritual beliefs and practices I questioned. I have experienced abuse from someone who should have been a source of love and safety.
Yet here I am.
Still standing. Still thinking. Still creating. Still building.
My survival is not your entertainment. My progress is not your permission to rewrite my history.
When Your Perception Meets Reality
One thing that continues to amaze me is how some people can speak with me by telephone or through video and develop an entirely different perception of who I am.
They hear me speak. They hear my vocabulary. They hear my thoughts about business, law, education, and life. They imagine a person who fits whatever picture they have created in their minds.
Then they meet me in person and discover that I am a Black woman.
Suddenly, the energy changes.
I have been left wondering whether some people were offended because the person they had imagined did not match the person standing before them.
Wait a minute.
You were comfortable with my intelligence before you saw me. You were comfortable with my ideas before you saw my face. You were comfortable discussing business and education before you had to confront your own assumptions.
So what changed?
Did my intelligence disappear? Did my ability to reason suddenly become less valuable? Did my ambitions become less legitimate?
Or did your preconceived notions finally meet reality?
I refuse to shrink myself to make somebody else comfortable. I will not apologize for being educated, ambitious, outspoken, entrepreneurial, or a Black woman who refuses to live according to someone else's expectations.
The Shift in My Public Narrative
There was a noticeable shift in how some people perceived me when my name became associated with Donald Trump.
Let me be clear: I am not here to defend him, and I do not need to defend every public figure with whom my name may be associated.
I am speaking about perception, assumptions, and the way people react when they believe someone has access to influential circles.
My family's history includes stories and relationships that I understand differently from those who have only encountered them through headlines, rumors, or social media commentary.
My grandmother, Deborah Jamison Valentine, was an important part of my family history. I have spoken about her connections to prominent figures, including Jesse Jackson Sr., Al Sharpton, Don King, and Donald Trump.
I also have my own understanding of the historical relationships and circumstances surrounding those individuals and my family's experiences.
People are free to question what they hear. I am equally free to preserve the distinction between what I know personally, what I learned through family history, and what I choose to discuss publicly.
I do not owe the internet a complete family archive.
And I certainly do not owe every curious person a private briefing.
As for the phrase “Trump tight,” those who understand what I mean will understand. Those who do not are free to draw their own conclusions.
Cheers.
I Laugh When People Judge What They Do Not Know
I laugh when people judge me based on what they think they know about me.
You know what I have shared. You know what you have observed. You know what somebody else told you.
But you do not automatically know the whole story.
I have learned that privacy is a form of protection. Strategy requires discipline. Not every thought needs to be announced, and not every plan needs an audience.
I am not going to reveal my next move to people who may be waiting for an opportunity to interfere with it.
I am deliberate about my decisions. I think several steps ahead. I do not confuse being visible with being completely accessible.
By now, you should understand one thing about me: I am very premeditated in my thinking.
My grandmother did not raise a woman who would surrender her judgment simply because somebody else had an opinion.
Allow me to introduce myself.
I AM THE CEO OF MY SUCCESS.
I am responsible for my decisions, my businesses, my future, and the life I am building.
I Came to Vegas to Build, Not to Chase Chaos
I did not come to Las Vegas to chase another person, participate in somebody else's dysfunction, or spend my life fueling a narrative that does not serve my future.
I came to rebuild.
I came to create businesses, establish professional relationships, pursue opportunities, and develop something that could outlast a social media argument.
I am grateful to the people who have shared knowledge, offered guidance, and helped me understand the mechanics of entrepreneurship.
Thank you, Morgan Proctor, for the connection to lessons I associate with your mother, Barbara, and the business knowledge I gained from that experience.
I can acknowledge what I learned from people without agreeing with every decision they make. I can appreciate a lesson without becoming permanently entangled in somebody else's personal affairs.
My focus is on what I am building.
Not who is fighting with whom.
Not who is dating whom.
Not who has chosen to remain in a relationship that I would never choose for myself.
And certainly not who wants to recruit me into a personal dispute.
My History Is Not Your Playground
I have my own history involving people in the entertainment and sports worlds. I have described experiences connected to Scottie Pippen and Michael Jordan, including my account of professional access and interactions during that period of my life.
I understand that people may have questions about those experiences.
But I am not obligated to turn every memory into a public spectacle, and I am not interested in arguing with people who believe that a few names are enough to explain an entire chapter of my life.
Six NBA championships, trophies, professional environments, and memorable encounters may be part of the larger story I have told. They are not the entirety of my identity.
My life is bigger than any celebrity connection.
My future is bigger than any old association.
And my ambitions do not depend on anybody else's willingness to validate my memories.
I am not interested in living my life as a permanent supporting character in somebody else's story.
I have my own story to tell.
My Freedom Is Not Negotiable
I enjoy my freedom.
I enjoy the ability to make decisions for myself, establish my boundaries, and determine who deserves access to my time and energy.
I believe in God. I believe my faith should guide my conduct, and I take my personal values seriously.
I am also serious about my physical safety. I will not romanticize violence or invite confrontation. I believe in protecting myself, establishing boundaries, and taking appropriate steps when I feel threatened.
You do not have to agree with my choices. You do not have to understand my personality. You do not have to like the way I conduct my business.
But you do have to respect my right to live without harassment, intimidation, or unwanted interference.
My life is not an open invitation.
The Gossip Is Not the Goal
Apparently, some people would rather discuss celebrity relationships, alleged romantic connections, old associations, and who may or may not be sharing someone's bed than discuss business, education, entrepreneurship, or personal growth.
If that is what interests you, you are entitled to your interests.
But please do not confuse your curiosity with my responsibility.
I am not obligated to confirm every rumor. I am not obligated to explain every personal relationship. And I do not have to participate in every conversation somebody starts using my name.
As for the colorful stories, jokes, and dramatic narratives that circulate around public figures and people connected to them, understand that entertainment and reality are not always the same thing.
A movie reference is not a marriage announcement. A rumor is not a verified fact. A personal interpretation is not a public record.
If you have questions about my life, remember that I am allowed to decide what I discuss and what I keep private.
Thank you.
My Marriage, My Family, and My Right to Remain Silent
I reserve the right to remain silent regarding my failed marriage and the personal circumstances surrounding it.
Not every painful experience needs to become a public explanation. Not every family matter belongs on a blog. And not every person who asks a question is entitled to an answer.
I will not use my family as ammunition in a public argument.
My son is a gift in my life, and the memories associated with my children are deeply personal to me.
Whatever the circumstances of my relationships, I am entitled to process them without turning every chapter into a spectacle.
Some stories require distance before they can be told responsibly. Others may never need to be told publicly at all.
Silence is not always an admission. Sometimes it is a boundary.
What Happened With Chris?
That is another question people seem to want answered.
But before asking what happened with Chris, perhaps it is worth asking why people are so invested in determining who is or is not in my bed.
Why does my private life generate more curiosity than the businesses I am building?
Why do people want explanations about my personal associations but show little interest in the work required to start over with almost nothing?
Why is gossip more interesting than growth?
Why are people more fascinated by who they believe I know than by what I am trying to accomplish?
I cannot answer those questions for you.
What I can tell you is that my private relationships are not the foundation of my identity, and I will not allow speculation about them to become the centerpiece of my life.
Ain't Talking About Nuthin
Let me bring this back to the point.
I am not here to entertain people who thrive on dysfunction. I am not here to defend myself against every rumor. I am not here to satisfy the curiosity of people who have already decided what they want to believe.
I am here to build.
I am here to learn.
I am here to establish businesses, create opportunities, tell meaningful stories, and turn difficult experiences into something productive.
I arrived in Las Vegas in July 2024 with one bag of clothing and almost nothing else.
Look at what I am still working toward.
That is the story I want people to understand.
Not the gossip. Not the manufactured drama. Not the endless speculation about my associations or personal life.
The story is about rebuilding when life strips you down to the basics and deciding that your circumstances will not have the final word.
I do not need everyone to like me. I do not need everyone to agree with me. And I certainly do not need permission to pursue my goals.
I need focus, discipline, faith, sound decisions, and the courage to keep moving.
So, if you came looking for gossip, you may be disappointed.
If you came looking for a woman who is willing to abandon her goals to satisfy your curiosity, you have come to the wrong place.
And if you came looking for someone who will allow petty drama to dictate the direction of her life, keep looking.
I have businesses to build, relationships to cultivate, opportunities to pursue, and a future to create.
I am not talking about nuthin. I am talking about my life, my freedom, my boundaries, and my next chapter.
And that chapter belongs to me.
— Chevy




