Wednesday, March 4, 2026
THANK YOU AR LEAKS #DJ & #JESSE Scottie never paid for Devonte’s funeral
When White Funeral Homes Closed Their Doors, a Black Pastor Opened One — And Turned Grief Into a Weapon for Dignity, Justice, and the Right to Rest in Peace
In 1933, in the shadow of the Great Depression, Rev. A.R. Leak opened the doors to what would become Leak & Sons Funeral Homes on Chicago’s South Side.
America’s economy had collapsed.
But for Black families who had journeyed north during the Great Migration, grief did not wait for prosperity. Death still came. Mothers still buried sons. Wives still buried husbands. Children still stood at caskets trying to understand loss.
And in segregated America, even mourning had rules.
White-owned funeral homes in Chicago often refused Black clients outright. Others charged inflated prices for inferior service. Even in death, Black families were reminded of their “place.”
Rev. Leak saw the cruelty in that.
He understood something sacred:
Funerals are not just about burying the dead. They are about affirming the humanity of the living.
To deny dignity in death is to deny dignity in life.
So he built an institution that said otherwise.
The Great Migration and the Architecture of Black Institutions
Between 1915 and 1970, millions of Black Americans fled the racial terror of the South for cities like Chicago. They came seeking factory jobs, safety from lynching, better schools for their children.
But when they arrived, segregation had simply changed its shape.
Redlined neighborhoods. Employment discrimination. Overcrowded housing. Schools underfunded by design.
So Black Chicago built its own infrastructure.
Black churches that doubled as political headquarters.
Black newspapers that told truths white presses ignored.
Black banks that lent when others refused.
And funeral homes that ensured dignity at life’s final threshold.
Leak & Sons became part of that sacred ecosystem.
Located near 78th Street and Cottage Grove, it became more than a business. It was a sanctuary. A trusted place where Southern burial traditions blended with Northern realities. Where gospel hymns met grief with hope. Where families could cry without humiliation.
A domestic worker who had cleaned white households her entire life received the same care as a Pullman porter, a preacher, or a blues singer.
Because dignity was not tiered.
The Business of Respect
As the Great Migration continued, so did the need.
Each new wave of families brought their customs — repasts, long viewings, open-casket ceremonies that allowed a community to say goodbye properly. African-rooted spiritual traditions merged with Baptist and Methodist liturgy.
Leak & Sons understood that cultural literacy mattered.
To serve Black families well meant knowing that funerals were communal events — not sterile transactions.
That commitment built generational loyalty.
Families who buried grandparents in the 1940s returned in the 1970s. Sons who once stood small beside a casket came back decades later with silver in their hair.
Institutions like Leak & Sons became memory keepers.
When Sam Cooke Came Home
In December 1964, the nation was shaken by the death of Sam Cooke.
At just 33, Cooke — whose anthem “A Change Is Gonna Come” had become a soundtrack for the Civil Rights Movement — was shot and killed under circumstances that remain disputed.
Thousands gathered in Chicago to mourn him.
Leak & Sons handled the logistics of that moment.
It was not simply a celebrity funeral. It was a communal reckoning. A city grieving a son whose voice had carried both romance and resistance.
And the funeral home treated it with the same care it gave to everyday families.
Fame did not change their standard.
Dignity was consistent.
When Dr. King Needed a Ride
In 1966, Martin Luther King Jr. came to Chicago to confront Northern racism through the Chicago Freedom Movement. Housing discrimination and economic injustice were the battleground.
But racism was not confined to Southern sheriffs.
Transportation companies refused to provide limousine service to King and his fellow organizers. They did not want their businesses associated with civil rights activism.
Leak & Sons stepped in.
They provided funeral limousines to transport Dr. King across the city.
There is something poetic in that image.
Vehicles meant to carry the dead now carried a movement fighting for the living.
In a nation where Black life was precarious, a Black funeral home helped protect and mobilize a man whose life was constantly under threat.
That was not coincidence.
That was commitment.
Segregation Didn’t End at the Cemetery Gates
Perhaps the most overlooked chapter of Leak & Sons’ legacy lies in Chicago’s cemeteries.
Even in the North, burial grounds were segregated. Black families were often restricted to overcrowded sections or denied access entirely.
Imagine surviving discrimination in life — only to face it in death.
Leak & Sons refused to accept that.
They helped organize and support protests that pressured cemeteries to integrate. They understood that burial is about belonging. About legacy. About where future generations will stand to remember you.
The protests succeeded.
Cemetery gates opened.
Black families gained the right to choose resting places based on preference and proximity — not racial restriction.
It did not make national headlines like Selma or Birmingham.
But for families choosing where their loved ones would rest, it was revolutionary.
The Deeper Meaning
Leak & Sons embodies a truth central to Black history:
When mainstream systems exclude us, we build alternatives rooted in care.
From Reconstruction through Jim Crow, from redlining through mass incarceration, Black communities have survived through institution-building.
Funeral homes may not sound glamorous.
But they are sacred.
They are where grief meets grace. Where final goodbyes affirm that a life mattered.
Rev. A.R. Leak opened his doors in 1933 during one of the bleakest economic periods in American history. Ninety years later, his descendants continue that work on Chicago’s South Side.
Through riots.
Through white flight.
Through economic disinvestment.
Through shifting political landscapes.
They remain.
That endurance is a testament not just to business acumen — but to trust.
Why This Story Matters
We often tell Black history through spectacle — marches, assassinations, courtroom victories.
But movements are sustained by infrastructure.
By the people who handle logistics.
By the institutions that serve quietly but consistently.
By those who ensure dignity when cameras are gone.
Leak & Sons did not simply bury the dead.
They buried humiliation.
They transported leaders when others refused.
They forced cemeteries to confront segregation.
They stood as proof that Black entrepreneurship could anchor a community with integrity.
In a country that often denied Black people the right to live freely, they insisted on the right to rest peacefully.
And that insistence — quiet, steady, unwavering — is its own form of revolution.
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Tuesday, March 3, 2026
Vegas has been so good for me "I LuvMe some Me"... Another Me would never do...
I Refuse to Talk Reckless Anymore
I said what I said.
I refuse to sit around and talk reckless with anyone who thrives on tearing people down.
It wasn’t until I saw her walking with Mustapha that something inside me shifted. Not jealousy. Not rage.
Revelation.
In that instant, I was thrown back to Poetic Justice the constant nagging about my drinking, the moral lectures, the tone of superiority. It’s interesting how some people will obsess over your glass while ignoring the chaos inside their own house.
And I had to ask myself:
Do I harass you about your past? Do I dissect your decisions? Do I question why other people had to step in where you didn’t? Do I bring up the patterns everyone pretends not to see?
No.
Because I don’t build myself up by exposing someone else’s wounds.
But let’s be honest this was never about morality.
I have explained his nature. His patterns. The history. The manipulation. The way he attaches himself for visibility and calls it purpose. The way he has treated women before. The way he performs relevance.
You ignored it.
Because sometimes women don’t want truth. They want the fantasy of being chosen.
Forget that he’s Deja’s father. That’s not even the point anymore.
The point is: delusion will convince you that proximity equals love. That standing next to a man makes you significant. That attention is affection.
It’s not.
I’ve been in rooms where status and image ruled everything. I’ve watched dynamics unfold around women as powerful as Beyoncé and saw firsthand how alliances built on ego eventually collapse.
Money doesn’t make you whole. Visibility doesn’t make you valuable. And access doesn’t make you secure.
What unsettled me wasn’t even the man.
It was the emptiness behind the decision.
How empty must you feel to chase attention like oxygen? How starved must you be to attach yourself to chaos just to feel relevant?
And then God reminded me.
You cannot buy your way into heaven. You cannot purchase peace. You cannot outspend spiritual poverty.
Look at Nicodemus educated, positioned, respected and still spiritually searching. Status did not secure him.
Only transformation did.
And in the Book of Proverbs it says: “A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish one tears it down with her own hands.”
I refuse to tear down what I’ve built mentally, spiritually, emotionally entertaining confusion.
I will not argue with someone who criticizes what they haven’t mastered. I will not debate morality with someone still negotiating with their own identity. I will not compete for a man whose character has already introduced itself.
If there are unresolved feelings, that is not my burden. If there is confusion, that is not my assignment. If there is jealousy, that is not my ministry.
I am done prioritizing anything attached to Mustapha.
I am done revisiting the past to justify my discernment. I am done explaining patterns to grown women who romanticize them.
Some of the most miserable people in the world have everything money, access, image and still perish internally.
Because peace is not purchased. Love is not performed. And relevance is not righteousness.
This isn’t anger.
This is clarity.
Growth looks like silence. Healing looks like distance. Wisdom looks like restraint.
And I am finally there.
Monday, March 2, 2026
HEY BABY... YOU OK??? Oh hell no I missed "Stranded in Dubai"???
Mohammed bin Zayed Al Nahyan
أولاً، كيف حال والدتك؟ لقد شرحتُ علاقتنا، وسأردّ عليكِ بكلّ حزم إذا تعرّضتِ للهجوم. السبب الرئيسي في ابتعادي عنكِ ليس خجلاً منكِ، بل احتراماً لخصوصيتنا. أين أخوك؟ لستِ بحاجةٍ للتوضيح، فأنا أعرف من قابلت. يؤسفني أن هذه المشكلة قد وصلت إلى دبي، ويحزنني أكثر أن مدينتكِ الجميلة تتعرّض للهجوم. كنا نعلم أن هذا قد يحدث. أدعو لكِ ولعائلتكِ ولدبي. كما تعلمين، أنا ملتزمةٌ بتعاليم ديني، ويجب أن أبقى وفيةً لله. لكنكِ صديقتي، إذا كان بإمكاني مساعدتكِ في نشر رسالتكِ، فلا تترددي في استخدام هاتفي.
It did NOT make sense... until last night!!!
Judgment, Memory, and the Truth I Had to Face
It didn’t make sense to me not at first.
When my children and I sat down and talked, I finally heard the words the way they must have sounded to them. I couldn’t understand why someone would refer to me or my mother as prostitutes.
That word carries weight. It carries shame. It carries finality.
I resisted even trying to understand it.
Until I remembered.
In 1992, at the The Ritz-Carlton, Atlanta, I was hired along with my dancers to entertain for an evening. The client was Mohammed bin Zayed Al Nahyan, who at that time was not the global political figure people recognize today, but simply a wealthy man booking private entertainment.
We were paid for a show.
After the performance, he asked us to stay. We did. No additional negotiation. No revised contract. What happened that evening was consensual. We were entertainers who had completed a booking. Each dancer walked out with $500. I collected commission $2,400 because I organized the engagement.
We parted ways.
That same weekend, I sent a gift to Aaron Hall, who was also in town. Life moved on.
But decades later, that memory resurfaced in a different light.
Why Madea Goes to Jail Hits Differently
When I rewatched Madea Goes to Jail, directed by Tyler Perry, I saw something I had missed before.
The film isn’t just comedy. Beneath the humor is the story of Candace a woman labeled and judged because of her involvement in prostitution.
The movie doesn’t ignore her choices, but it also forces the audience to look at context.
Trauma. Survival. Agency. Misjudgment.
It asks a painful question:
When does a label become someone’s identity?
And who decides?
Watching that storyline, I realized something uncomfortable.
People don’t always care about the details. They hear “money,” “hotel,” “men,” and they fill in the blanks themselves.
The distinction between:
Being hired as entertainment
Consenting as an adult
And selling sex as a transaction… gets erased in the public imagination.
The Oprah and Lisa Version
If I were to “correct the record,” I wouldn’t do it with anger. I would do it the way women like Oprah Winfrey or LisaRaye McCoy often frame difficult chapters not as confession, not as scandal, but as ownership.
Ownership of:
My decisions.
My agency.
My truth.
My growth.
There was no trafficking. There was no coercion. There was no negotiated exchange of sex for money.
There was entertainment. There was adult choice. And there was departure.
Those facts matter.
Talking to My Children Changed Me
The hardest part wasn’t public opinion.
It was explaining context to my children.
It was realizing that if I didn’t tell my story clearly, someone else would simplify it. And simplification is where dignity gets lost.
Madea Goes to Jail reminds us that society is quick to judge women, especially Black women. Quick to brand. Slow to ask questions.
But it also reminds us that redemption doesn’t always mean you were guilty. Sometimes redemption is simply reclaiming your narrative.
I am not a label. My mother is not a label. And a single weekend in 1992 does not define a lifetime.
Truth, when spoken calmly and clearly, doesn’t need embellishment.
It just needs courage.
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